Autism and Impulse Control: What You Need to Know

Autism and Impulse Control: What You Need to Know

People with autism often surprise others in the most delightful and interesting of ways. But other times, their behaviors may be confusing, odd, or even dangerous.

We all have impulses, and very few people (if any) are able to control their impulses all the time. However, impulse control is a skill that many people with autism often struggle with, and the behaviors associated with this issue can range from cute to troublesome.

This article will help you understand the reasons for impulsivity in people with autism and what can be done to help someone with autism overcome impulsive desires and behaviors.

Recognizing impulsivity

Impulse control is the inability to stop oneself from participating in an activity or behavior. It is one skill in a group of cognitive abilities that fall under a category known as "executive function." This umbrella term encompasses the ability to plan, organize, manage time, multi-task, reason, solve problems, and inhibit behaviors.

Executive dysfunction, which is common in people with autism, refers to a lack of one or more of these skills or a tendency of these skills to require more time and effort than they usually do for other people. This can lead to shorter attention spans, inflexibility of thought, and the inability to use working memory effectively.

Not every person with autism also has executive dysfunction, and not every person who suffers from executive dysfunction is also on the autism spectrum disorder, but the two diagnoses are commonly associated with one another.

People who have a problem with impulse control may exhibit the following behaviors:

  • interrupts conversations
  • has trouble taking turns
  • has angry outbursts
  • is easily distracted and has trouble paying attention
  • has trouble remembering and folliwng instructions
  • blurts out answers before being called on or before the question is finished

The issue of impulse control

Impulses vary widely among individuals in terms of what sets them off and what the result is, but the idea is the same no matter the trigger or the behavior. People with impulse control issues are unable to hold themselves back from something they feel they need to do. This lack of control can lead to behavioral issues at home, school, or work, and it can monopolize the attention of those around them. People on the spectrum who cannot control their impulses will struggle with obeying instructions that go against their impulses and may struggle to pay attention or sit still.

It isn't always a bad thing to have your impulses drive your behaviors, but in certain situations, teachers, bosses, parents, or other individuals will need to try to curb the impulsive behavior, since impulsive behaviors can often be disruptive or otherwise problematic. This may cause further issues, because an autistic person who has had their impulses thwarted could end up having a meltdown or shutdown in response.

What causes a lack of impulse control?

People with autism are known for their ability to hyper-focus on an object or activity. Their passionate affinity for very specific things often leads them to prioritize that thing over whatever else may be going on in their lives, and the right trigger could very well cause them to forget everything else in an instant. A new stimulus arrives on the scene, and suddenly, nothing else exists.

Impulse control issues can be the result of either or negative stimuli; a person may have a desire to either get away from a certain thing or to participate in a certain activity or touch or see a certain object. He or she might be triggered by certain foods, caffeine intake, light or sound sensitivities, a new person or object, or a need to partake in a repetitive pattern.

Impulsivity could also be a sign of ADHD, which is a common comorbid disorder of autism. To learn more about these two comorbid disorders, check out our article here.


Click "next" below to find out how impulsivity can be dangerous, as well as to learn some tips for teaching impulse control.

Why is lack of impulse control dangerous?

Most of the time, a lack of impulse control is just inconvenient, not dangerous. Sometimes it can even be endearing. But depending on the level of dysfunction and the situations in which the person's impulses become a problem, the inability to control those impulses could endanger a person with autism.

Imagine a young man on the spectrum who has a passion for trains, for example. In theory, there's absolutely nothing wrong with this man's impulsive need to pick up every toy train he comes across or read every book that has a photo of a train on the cover. But if you take the same young man to a busy train station, where several trains are coming and going at the same time, his desire to see a real train up close and personal could put him in a life-threatening situation, especially if he has little understanding of danger. Controlling his impulses in a situation like this is important to ensure that he remains safe.

Tips for teaching impulse control

Teaching someone with autism to control their impulses is likely going to be a long process. You can't give a lecture on impulse control or expect one "practice round" to do the trick. But a little patience and understanding can go a long way to helping a person develop better executive function.

The most important part of teaching impulse control is to look for teachable moments but be flexible when they don't go exactly right. Try and try again, as often as you can, to exercise the person's ability to control their behavior, but always allow do-overs too. The person is more likely to learn something from the extra opportunity to do it right than they are from verbal correction.

It's also a good idea to utilize teachable moments more when the person is having a good day rather than a bad one; someone who is already frustrated and cranky will be less likely to succeed at controlling their impulses, which leaves everyone involved with a negative feeling. While you may not always be able to wait for the "right" time to practice impulse control, it's vital to know when the person has had enough.

Being a good model is also key to teaching impulse control. If you're a parent or caretaker of someone with autism and impulsivity, you can share your frustrations with them as an example. Talk them through the situation, telling them why you're frustrated and then discuss potential solutions to the issue without getting emotional about it.

Talk to a doctor or therapist about other ways you might be able to help someone with autism learn better impulse control and other skills in the executive function realm.

Elizabeth Morey

Elizabeth Morey graduated summa cum laude from Aquinas College in Grand Rapids, MI, where she dual majored in English Literature and Spanish with minors in Writing and Business Administration. She was a member of the school's Insignis Honors Society and the president of the literary honors society Lambda Iota Tau.

Some of Elizabeth's special interests include Spanish and English linguistics, modern grammar and spelling, and journalism. She has been writing professionally for more than five years and specializes in health topics such as breast cancer, autism, diabetes, and Alzheimer's disease. Apart from her work at GreaterGood, she has also written art and culture articles for the Grand Rapids Magazine.

Elizabeth has lived in the beautiful Great Lakes State for most of her life but also loves to travel. She currently resides a short drive away from the dazzling shores of Lake Michigan with her beloved husband.

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