Cowardly Man Wants Closure from Woman He Jilted on Their Wedding Day Eight Years Ago
Closure.
The word was coined by Arie W. Kruglanski, a university professor and a Fellow of the American Psychological Association and the American Psychological Society, in the 1990s. According to him, it came from the phrase he invented: "Need for closure." Closure is the desire of a person to find the answer to the question in his mind so that he does not go through life filled with uncertainties after a breakup or another event that created confusion and frustration.
Here are the 10 reasons why closure is important after a relationship, according to Marriage.com:
- Closure gives you the answer to the questions that haunt you after a breakup.
- It gives you a chance to learn from the mistakes in your recently ended relationship and avoid repeating them.
- It becomes easier for you to accept the reality that the relationship is over and your ex is not coming back.
- It makes you see the whole affair clearly and enables you to realize and accept your share in the mistake that led to the breakup.
- It also helps in releasing pent-up anger and bitterness, while also giving you the opportunity to apologize.
- By having closure, you and your ex can part ways peacefully and without guilt.
- It makes you stop racking your mind with the question ‘what if?’
- After learning why your relationship did not work, you get the chance to look deeper into yourself, improve, and set new relationship goals.
- Without closure, you may keep believing that your ex will still return, and you'll spend the rest of your life waiting.
- Closure will also prevent past hurts from haunting your next relationship.
But does this cowardly man still have the right to ask for closure after jilting his ex-fiancee on their wedding days eight years ago?
This woman, who suffered the pain and shame of being abandoned, related on Reddit's r/TrueOffMyChest forum under the username u/_throw_away_229_ the following: "He left me on our wedding day, and I have no idea why. In the immediate aftermath, his family told me they didn't know his reason. I haven't seen or talked to him since the morning of our wedding day when we went our separate ways to get ready. I haven't seen or talked to any of his family or friends since three days afterward."
It's been a long while since then, eight years to be exact. But all of a sudden, according to OP, one of the brothers of her ex-fiance appeared in the hospital where she works. He told her that her ex wanted to have closure.
She gave him a most incredulous reaction! Eight years, and it is only now that her ex wanted to explain why he broke her heart so excruciatingly!
OP continued to write in her post, "His brother never did anything to me, but I told him I want nothing to do with my ex, and if he or anyone else contacts me, I'll get a lawyer involved. I also told him the ER isn't the place to for visiting me - I'm working and not here to socialize."
OP is still seething in anger. No, she does not want to see him ever again. The nerve that her abominable ex-fiance has!
Reddit users were in a rage as well as they expressed their opinions!
Skilledpainter commented, "Yeah, don't do it. My ex wanted closure also for something that she orchestrated that lead to our divorce. F-ck that closure, it's only because they don't feel comfortable about their scheme or what they did."
Kitty_Kass likewise remarked, "Probably eating up at him that he never told her why he left, maybe? If so, and even if not, actually, lol, but he's pathetic. Couldn't face her then and still can't face her now by sending the brother instead!"
More support for OP's decision from tattoovamp: "Well that's a lot of entitlement from someone who left you on your wedding day. You don't owe him a thing. Do what is best for you and you alone."
Added by pepsiloverdrinkscoke: "Good for you! 'Closure' for who? Closure already happened when he left you. Nothing else needed."
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