who ?...me?

I always knew in the core of my gut that something was going to be very different.I already had accepted it.I had already vebalized it.I had talked about my concerns.I received many different responses.He's a boy..he will settle down,why do you think somethings different?there is no evidence of what you are describing,maybe you are having postpartum,maybe you need a break more often,maybe you style of parenting isn't working,maybe it's because you are not bonding,maybe it's because you are not attatching,maybe you need to work on social skills,maybe he needs more discipline...
Then the school system.He wont listen,settle down,play appropriately,laughs inappropriately,wild,refuses to do the work,doesnt understand the work,doesnt apologize,incomplete assignments.
In grade 4 I chose to home school my son.For one year we soley worked on "being us" with no expectations.Just learning to love this unusual gift.I saw it..why couldn't others?
I moved my son to a private school.The expectations were too high.The demands unreasonable.The homework too much.He wasn't conforming,and neither was I.The tears,the fights,the battles, miscommunication, the prayers for our beloved thread of sanity.Why?Stop thinking.Stop doing.Just be.
Be the advocate. Strengths,joy,love,patience,kindness,gentleness.Through the eyes of these things as your screen,others will start to view things through your screen.Blog it,post it,share it,celebrate it,talk about it.This is your gift,and sometimes,just sometimes ..the giving is better than receiving.

Tawnya Kalt Lambe
Vanderhoof, Canada